Are you comfortable in front of people, or does the idea of public speaking make you want to hide in the bathroom? Why?
when we get a new life, with that we get few inbuilt qualities too which we call god gifts. God gifts everyone some way. but the problem is that we are never happy with our gifts. our eyes are always on others’ gifts. this makes us out-centered and we start losing our own center. we become negligent to our own abilities and qualities. we always think that God has done some injustice to us.
He should have given something like others to us too. this makes us miser and we always expect more and more, never try to see or love whatever we have. in fact, we should be thankful to almighty for all he has given to us rather than creeping about our lackings. this very non-acceptance of ourselves makes us afraid of many things about which we are not comfortable or to which we are new.
Public speaking is one of those few fears which comes from non-acceptance. if we can be ourselves then every fear of life can be removed. though this is easy said than doing. but we can do it by strong commitment. A large proportion of people is afraid of public speaking. there are many reasons for that and if we believe them then there are infinite reasons of that they can’t be public speakers. but there are few legitimate reasons which always hinder us from being an effective public speaker.
Disbelief in self:
most of the people who are afraid of public speaking are not self-believers. they are always concerned about other people, what they will say? unless we get rid of this we can’t do anything original in our life. not only public speaking but it will make us scary about a lot of things in our life because there are very few things which are not in public domain. so in order to do sth original in the life, we need to believe In ourselves first.
we need to accept ourselves as we are. there is no need to make any change because of the others. and the moment we start accepting ourselves we start changing at once. the moment a killer comes to know that he is a killer and which is a bad thing, he will not be a killer anymore. in a similar way, the moment we accept our shortcomings we start making changes accordingly. it’s all about our consciousness.
obsession with perfectionism:
some of us are quite obsessed with perfection. we do not like to plunge into anything unless we are expert but do you think we can be perfect this way in anything? no. so I think we should grab the every chance of public speaking. it doesn’t matter how much knowledge we have about the subject topic in the initial stage. once our fear of coming on stage is overcome, we can work for the betterment of the content.
“Too many people spend too much time trying to perfect something before they actually do it. Instead of waiting for perfection, run with what you go, and fix it along the way…”
― Paul Arden
this is also one of the factors which can be a hindrance in the path of a good public speaker. these people are normally of shy nature and avoid any company. so if any of these wanna be an effective public speaker he should try to make himself more social. he can start with his friends.
there are many other reasons too. though these are major ones. Here I’m sharing quotes from some of the quite effective public speakers. it can be a good source of inspiration.
“If you have an important point to make, don’t try to be subtle or clever. Use a pile driver. Hit the point once. Then come back and hit it again. Then hit it a third time – a tremendous whack.”
― Winston S. Churchill
“A good speech should be like a woman’s skirt; long enough to cover the subject and short enough to create interest.”
― Winston S. Churchill
“99% of the population is afraid of public speaking, and of the remaining 1%, 99% of them have nothing original and interesting to say.”
― Jarod Kintz
sign of greatness is when a man does not attempt to look and act
great. Before you can call yourself a man at all, Kipling assures
us, you must “not look too good nor talk too wise.”
― Dale Carnegie,
“Thinking in loneliness and speaking in public are the two things leaders are masters at.”